Dear Malena:

You are welcome.

In the context of two children suffering ongoing severe emotional abuse, it is hard for me to think about your relationship with this man. It is difficult to look away from the abuse part of these two children and look at the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship between you and their father.

The father of these two abused children should do all that he can do to have her charged with child abuse and/ or seek full custody of his two children ASAP.

If this is not possible for him, then he is held hostage by this woman for as long as the children are living with her, and as unfair as it is, he should not date until such time that the two children (one a year from being legally an adult) live independently and away from their mother.

If I was you, for as long as their mother has any type custody of the children, I would end this relationship because I wouldn’t be able to endure the thought that I have any part in this story of abuse.

Outside of the child abuse part, this is not a great situation for you and doesn’t look like it’s getting better. I am sure there is a better dating/ relationship option for you out there.

anita