Dear T23:

You are welcome. I have two suggestions:

1. Because she stated that you sexually assaulted her (“she stated that I had sexually assaulted her”), do not have any physical contact with her, sexual or otherwise- do not initiate any and do not accommodate her if she initiates such with you. And do not spend alone time with her where she now lives or elsewhere.

It doesn’t matter that there really was no sexual assault (I am taking your word for it). What matters is that she stated so, and because she did, she may state it again, maybe to police, and as a result you may get arrested.

It is possible, like you suggested, that she is depressed. Maybe she is mentally unwell, so much so that she will get you into more trouble than just a “marriage breaking down” (the title of your thread).

2. I see the only chance of this marriage to resume as a healthy marriage is if the two of you attend quality marriage counseling together, with a capable counselor or therapist.

I hope you post again.

anita