Dear Nicolle:

“I feel obligated to all these things.. doing them more for my family than for myself.. what should I do instead?”-

My answer: aim at feeling obligated to yourself, not to your family; aim at living for yourself, not for your family. You don’t really have to live in a monastery so to no longer be mentally enslaved to your family. It is not necessary to go to that extreme.

You can move out of your parents’ home, if you are still living with them; you can make a list of what you think you owe them and then run that list through me, and I will help you figure out what it is that you really owe them, and what it is that you don’t owe them.

anita