Dear Sofi0ula:

To be a good person, one has to control his tongue and not allow “angry spills” out of his mouth whatever, whenever to whoever”. – “trying each time to keep his cool” is not good enough, he needs to.. keep his cool. Maybe you can suggest to him to take “time out” when he feels an angry spill on the way, and take a long walk outside, then go back home calmer and in control.

Like you said, “violence (.. verbal and physical) should be something of the past.. It only created hurtful and depressing connections in my brain, for the people I love the most”- I couldn’t have stated it better.

anita