Dear Guthries:

“if you are talking about some subject they don’t want to hear, they will cut you off quickly”- it is rude for people to “cut you off and talk about something else”. Sometimes I find myself impulsively cutting someone off but I don’t keep talking; I apologize and stop talking.

It often happens that one person will talk about something interesting to herself (or himself) but the listener is bored. And if the person talking keeps talking for a long time, it is very difficult to keep being bored for a long time, it feels like being trapped and wanting out.

Therefore, better talk in moderation, talk some and take a break, see how the listener responds: does he asks questions on the topic I just talked about, wanting to hear more, or is the listener relieved, changing the subject or excusing themselves and moving on.

When you find yourself with a person who talks a lot, on and on,  and you are very bored, what do you do in that situation?

anita