Dear Lily:

Thank you for letting me know that I too can take my time before replying to  you. And good to read from you again.

Regarding the exercise class, I suggest that you talk to the instructor, explain to him/ her why you walked out, and that you want to return to the class but you are embarrassed about having walked out. Ask her if it is okay that you did, and if it is okay with her if you walk out again when overwhelmed. Maybe the instructor will be very empathetic and accommodating to you and that will help a whole lot.

Regarding not proceeding with long term goals such as the mentor idea, and focusing instead on short term goals, this is an understandable strategy of us anxious people. This is why sayings like: one step at a time, one day at a time are so useful for people who are anxious. The tendency to procrastinate tasks that cause us distress is strong.

Aim at talking in concrete, more confident ways, then the vague, non committal “I think”, (or your brother’s) “maybe”, “it’s possible”. Use more yes or no, and way less maybe.

I am glad to read that your therapist too can see your progress, and good to read that you are continuing to progress, using different tools and strategies to make it happen!

anita