Dear Maria D:

If your life, physical safety, and emotional health are threatened in country X (“I even had certain extended family members give masked threats for example an uncle such relations are doomed to end in a horrible way, a girl who marries a man of a different religion is an infidel and deserves death”), then you shouldn’t move back there, and you should make or keep your location in the new country a secret from all your family members.

If indeed your life, safety and health are threatened in country X, and this man wants you to return to country X, then he doesn’t really love you, does he.

So the questions: should you return to country X and should you continue your relationship with this man, depend on whether your life, physical safety and health will be in danger if you return to country X.

According to the quote I included here, you are in danger if you return to country X, especially if you continue the relationship with this man, or if your uncle/ family believes you are continuing the relationship with him.

Isn’t this the case?

anita