Hi @adelaide,

My thoughts got out of control. Reading back over the last post I feel so stupid. Better said here than to him. He is nothing like that and nothing like my ex so I shouldn’t expect the same behaviour of him or to automatically categorise him as someone who will hurt me when he’s been nothing but patient and supportive whilst getting nothing substantive in return. I think because I finally realised my feelings are more it’s scary to thing about the loss now. I cherish him being part of my life , it was a slow burner and that’s what I need to accept i can’t control everything now that i want it to go faster and enjoy it. He may need his time. It’s only fair and he deserves the best and if he now has doubts I can’t really blame him after how I was. So I’m going to try and be patient. Meanwhile show him that I want him as that was something he felt he didn’t feel..wanted by me. Anyone got any tips?

Adelaide I’d say good on you for enjoying a hit of a flirt but tread carefully I wouldn’t recommend continuing this if you don’t see something fruitful or anything more appealing in that person. It’s not worth the short buzz and you would be selling yourself. short. You’ll end up relying on things like this to boost your self esteem when that has to come from within. That kind of stuff is best enjoyed in a unison where both of you feel more, drawn to each other on other aspects too then in person that electricity helps develop it into a relationship..don’t do hook ups it will just damage you further. My opinion only.

I’m so proud of you though chick for carrying on and being so self aware. Xx