Dear Anita,

Thank you for going through the post again! part of the reason I am posting here was because of your support in the past. You could see that I have actually dragged on the previous relationship much longer though I had supposedly sorted out that I should have broken off the relationship that time.

Going back to the questions:

Negative things are just work related or some small frustrations in life. Petty and not really serious. I am not usually a person who complains or speaks negatively most of the time. The fact that I have chosen to share these with him is because I realised he share a lot of things happening in his daily life with me. It might sound like the thing that most couples do, but my previous relationship is not like that. We did not share about things enough to a point that I did not know what is going on with each other’s life. And the way this relationship being normal actually makes me feel like I need some adjustments. And I started to share more about my life with him, the good and the bad, though I did realised that sometimes I probably overdo a bit on those “bad parts”, not in length but probably my tone of narrating the incident.

To be fair, the blaming part comes in when I share negative things happening that could partly be my fault. and he would start to point out all the wrongs I did even though there is a whole load of other factors that could cause the situation. I realised that I am not someone who is easily open up to people, and admittedly it was kind of hurtful when I had chosen to open up to him but did not get the expected reactions. Come to think of it, other than feeling sad that he is not on my side when I told him stuff (I admit this being a little childish), most of all I get the feeling that he probably is starting to see the bad side of me and he is not going to like me like I am. Honestly I had not wanted to start a relationship when I met him initially, what changed me was his willingness to share his part of life with me and he did make me feel comfortable being open with him in the first place. I am not sure if he is starting to dislike certain behaviour of me or me overthinking.

Bell