Hi Anita,

To answer your question, after he had told me and confessed everything, we thought it would be constructive if he spoke to Steve to reiterate things with him and lay down some boundaries. He reiterated that:

1. He didn’t want a relationship with him, and he didn’t want their friendship to progress any further.

2. He didn’t think of him sexually, but rather admired his motivation and drive.

3. There would be no communication other than when they’re at the gym. No extra curricular activities, no extra walks, no social media, no texting, etc.

My boyfriend told Steve that he would say hello and goodbye to him because he doesn’t want to be disrespectful, but he will not initiate conversations with him. No personal life matters, no extra talks, etc.

Steve said he respected this decision and didn’t want to cause any harm to our relationship, and he doesn’t want to cross any lines and/or step on my toes.

Steve stopped attending the gym about two weeks ago. Then, suddenly, he came back yesterday. It was very random. We had assumed he quit, but turns out he took a break. When he came back, my boyfriend did not interact with him. They had a 20 second conversation when my boyfriend was leaving the gym, because Steve had asked him a question. My partner is looking to leave the gym though, he has given himself a time period to leave.

I hope that gives you more clarity, thanks again.

Sincerely,

kiwiboy0897