Hi again

Today my partner and I were discussing. I was trying to understand more with clarity from his perspective on the ‘attraction,’ and what it meant etc.

He said that it wasn’t that he was attracted to him. He said that he, and this is the best way he could explain it because it was difficult for him to do so, would like it if I was as motivated as Steve. I’ll give you some context.

I’m a full time student working a casual job. Steve owns a business and is very motivated with his work. He taught my partner a lot about business and business opportunities and my partner is seeking to start one. He said he was very inspired by his drive and motivation, and that’s something he’d like himself and me to aspire to.

My boyfriend said, “I was just imagining ‘what if you (me/kiwiboy0897) was that motivated. We could build an empire.’”

So, I guess, my partner was fascinated and appreciative of that trait within his persona. This clarity makes me feel better and helps me understand more, about what I need to work on also. But is it wrong of him to think that way? He didn’t crave or lust for him, nor did he ever think or feel like being with him. How do I cope with this and how should I view it? It does make me feel a little bit insecure because I think, what more can I do? We did discuss how my comfortability annoyed him, and that I needed to be more motivated, but I guess I just never really took in on board. I guess to explain it, he wanted that part of him for me because he wants to better me and help me grow.

Thoughts?

Sincerely,

kiwiboy0897

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