Dear Anonymous:

“he admitted he should go to therapy”- maybe he was honest about it, maybe he was not. He could have said that to you because he thought it is something you would like to hear him say, something that will draw you to him. Like I wrote to you earlier today, it is hard work to figure out what of what he says is true, what is part true and what is a complete lie. And there is no reason to work so hard, because overall he is not an honest man, so better not get involved with him personally.

Because you have friends in common and you live in a small town, if I was you, I would tell him that you are not interested and will not be interested in any interaction with him privately. That when you see him in public/ with common friends, you will be cordial to him and you expect him to be cordial to you. Don’t open this for a conversation, don’t ask him anything, don’t negotiate, just tell him in a confident tone of voice and make it as short as it needs to be.

anita