Hi Archer,

It is very important to be able to trust your friends and significant other in both bad times and good times.  What do you consider to be signs of weakness?  Could you also elaborate a little more on what you mean by ‘crushing life’?

It is good to have work that you do because you want to.  Many people do not understand the importance of having ambition or passion towards their careers.  I have found that and use my blog, book, and participation in forums to assist others and doing the same.  Congrats on already reaching that point.

Also, creating times you have full days to yourself instead of working seven days a week when possible can be very beneficial. I used to work seven days a week with multiple jobs.  Once I finally reached a point in life where I only needed one job,  it took a long time (over a year)  to learn how to relax and not be in a constant state of adrenaline rush.  Sometimes, when we work too much, our bodies can stop sending signals that we are tired–causing the possibility of burning out without even noticing.  I now make it a point in my life to take one day completely off of work per week, and it has been insanely helpful.

Not wanting to be broke is a very reasonable goal.  Define your version of powerful/powerless please.  It sounds like you already have quite a bit of discipline to be running your own business and working independently towards your goals.  It is good that you have figured out what you don’t want. You should also work on figuring out what you do want and how you want to perceive yourself. Figuring out who and what you want to be as a person often comes before figuring out what you want, but not always.

Focusing on personal growth is a great route towards also figuring out what you want in a relationship.  Following your instincts and you heart.  A person can be perfect in your eyes but still not be perfect for you. In the personal growth department figuring out who you want to be (from paragraph above) usually leads to developing your preferences in what you see as a desirable partner. The big thing there is to figure out what you consider to be non-negotiable qualities.  For example, I believe empathy, kindness to people and animals alike, and emotional depth are important. Decide what is important to you.

Best of luck,

Melinda