Dear Anna:

“Me and her don’t have one thing in common,”- you and her have him in common, and that’s not a good thing for you or for her.

“which makes me feel like he has wanted someone like her this whole time”- more likely he was fine with you, then saw her and wanted her too. Imagine him with a strawberry ice cream, having a lot of it, enjoying it very much.. then he sees cherry ice cream and tries that, he likes it and wants more of that. He still likes strawberry, but maybe he likes cherry better for  now. Later he may try chocolate ice cream and like it better than cherry and strawberry.

“Like he now realized he was with the wrong person this whole time (me)”- I don’t think so, not from what you shared. I think he simply likes another flavor now, and later, he will like another.

“I feel like she is better than me in everything”- no she isn’t. If she was better than you in everything, she would have chosen a different man for a boyfriend, one who doesn’t lie and who can be trusted.

You are letting your imagination hijack you when you “keep imagining them both happy and laughing and in love, and laughing at me.. new love starting or love at fist sight.. I imagine the two of them”- reality is that you checked their conversations and you have evidence (vs. imagination) that “they were fighting all the time, with  bad words and everything”.

Question is are you willing to let go of fantasy/ your imaginings/ your obsession, and see him as he is:  not a prince charming at the end of a fairytale book, walking forevermore into the sunset., “and they lived happily ever after. The End”.

Close that fairytale/ fiction book, and open a different book, a nonfiction book, a reality book, and start at The Beginning.

anita