Dear Alejandra:

“I can’t just bend myself over and over again for someone who is okay with disrespecting me like that”- I like the sentiment here, I like it!

“I am currently feeling all of this pain, heartbreak, betrayal, and that is what has me feeling hopeless, trying to fight for something that isn’t right”- it is the fighting that will keep the pain going and going. Stop fighting the pain; stop fighting for this relationship, for him, or against him- and you will be surprised by how quickly this pain will subside and you will feel so much better.

Regarding the lockdown, that’s something else, isn’t it. First time in my lifetime that the whole world closed down, nowhere to go. But think of this: neither you nor I can do anything at all about this COVID-19 virus, other than staying away from it and keeping it away from us. Why not do the same with your ex-boyfriend, social distance yourself from him.

Not that he is a virus, of course, but him cheating on you infected you with significant emotional pain. Keep away from the source of your personal pain, and you will feel better.

* Later today I will add to my thread on the COVID-9 topic, suggesting what we call look at online in regard to how long the lockdown in each country will last.

Post here anytime, Alejandra and I will reply to you.

anita