Dear Alejandra:

“I feel like I kind of lost my mental stability in this relationship” – in my experience, in most cases, adults don’t permanently their  mental stability because of an experiences in adulthood. Such loss happens in childhood, in those Formative Years when our brains are being formed: thousands of neuropathways held tight with the strongest emotions of childhood are formed in those years.

So I think you will be okay.

Regarding your two previous relationships, I don’t see you having issues: it is understandable that you felt that you were burdened with taking care of him, wondering who was there to take care of you. And in the second, again, I understand your difficulty with not having your boyfriend around for a whole year- that’s a very long time!

anita