Dear Pedro:

If your girlfriend is a  good partner to you and your relationship with her has been healthy, then your anxiety is not about whether you love her or not.

“one day, we were talking and out of nowhere I felt that I didn’t love her anymore. Nothing at all. I didn’t care much at the time”- nothing unusual about this, a feeling of love is not a permanent condition. The feeing of love, like all feelings, come and go and keep changing, much like the weather: sunny, then cloudy, then rainy etc.

This is why you weren’t alarmed at the time (“didn’t care much at the time”), because it happened before, nothing unusual.

But “in the days that followed I felt enormous anguish, anxiety like never before”- this anxiety is not about the question of whether you love her or not.

Your anxiety is about something else- maybe your work situation, maybe it’s about your family, maybe the pandemic.. maybe it’s because of something that happened when you were a child.

What do you think?

anita