Hi Anna,

It sounds like she is being a competitive jerk! She is using you as a foil or a benchmark for her own relationship.

You can do a few things here:

1. Tell her directly, “This isn’t a competition.”

2. Give her a patronizing, “I’m sure you and your fiancé are doing great”

3. Double down on YOUR decisions. “Well, I guess my boyfriend and I are old school. We decided to take things slow since there is a child involved.”

4. Give her no information on your boyfriend. NOTHING. “*shrug* We’re doing OK.”

5. Cut the conversation short when she gets competitive OR when fifteen minutes have elapsed. “Gotta go! Meeting on Zoom!”

6. Don’t call/text/Zoom back. “I never imagined I’d get so much work/things done now that I’m social distancing!”

Good Luck!

Inky