Dear blkhwkdwn1:

Good thing you coughing is better. Maybe you shouldn’t work until you are all better.

Regarding these two choices: 1) saying goodbye to her, and/ or asking for a break and 2) no longer calling her without a goodbye or a mention of a break-

#1 will get you where it got you before, again and again: you say goodbye, announce a break, feel better for it, then feel despair, missing her, followed by contacting her, followed by feeling better, followed by feeling angry, followed by calling her, saying goodbye etc. etc.

Plus, at first you asking for a break worked out for you (“she wanted to be really short”), but it is not working for you anymore. She expects you to ask for or announce a break and a goodbye at any time. Expecting this from a person discourages closeness.

#2 has a chance to work for you. If there is a chance of getting closer with her, it is in no longer saying goodbye and asking or declaring a break from her.

If you need a break from her- just don’t contact her.

anita