Dear Javairia:

He vented to you to relieve himself from his distress at your expense. I wrote this to you earlier, not knowing that at-your-expense meant that you harmed yourself as a result of his venting/dumping his distress on you. This is making me very angry! You must stop your contact with him, for crying out loud!

Javairia: please stop the contact with him and do all you can do to stop harming yourself. However you stopped it in the past, do now what you did then, to stop this harmful habit.

How did you stop it in the past?

(I will soon be away from the computer for a few hours).

anita