Dear Javairia:

Two days ago, you wrote: “I don’t even know what behavior makes me a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ person. I am like a stranger to myself when it comes to defining what things are good for me or bad for me. Same with my qualities”-

– but you clearly defined something that is bad for you: oversharing and venting to another person, expecting the listener to be available to the one excessively venting,  which is what the “friend” did to you (page 1 of this thread), and what your mother did to you: “wouldn’t stop talking every five minutes.. have a company 24/7 by her side…. talks like, ‘What to  do, my life doesn’t have a purpose and I want to die”.

So you  know clearly one behavior on the part of other people that is bad for you, and which you don’t want in your life. You also know that if it’s bad for you, it’s bad for other people too, and indeed you didn’t behave this way with the “friend” (page 1), and you shared in earlier threads (which you deleted) that as a child and onward, you took on a role  of a happy-go-lucky person, not complaining about anything so to not bring others down.

In other words, you do know one good behavior/ good quality on your part that is “an insight to (your) personality and useful quality/ attribute” that you can put in a personal statement for universities!

* In your most recent post, you wrote: “I wasn’t one of those people”, you mean: one of the people who  don’t excessively vent? This would be a surprise to me  because I remember you sharing that you pretended to be happy with friends, and at home, pretending to not have problems. Do I remember correctly?

anita

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