Dear MG03:

You are welcome and regarding you calling me an angel- it brought about my  first smile of the day, so thank you!

“when I will tell him that we won’t talk privately anymore”- you can talk with him privately, as in no one is there to hear what the two of you are talking, but don’t spend time with him privately in the sense that there will be an opportunity for the two of you to kiss and become physically affectionate and sexual. In other words: talking is okay; physical contact is not okay.

“Do you have any tips as how I convince him with my decision and make sure that he understands to not spend extra time with me?”-

At this point, it is okay for the two of you to be talking, about anything and everything, no limit- so don’t worry on the talking front. Worry about one and only one front: no physical contact with him.

It is your right as a woman to not be touched by a man against your wishes. Tell him that you do not want to have any physical contact with him whatsoever: not at work and not outside of work.

If he does not respect this assertion (no physical contact), then he is a bad man. If he is a bad man, then it doesn’t make sense that you need to “convince him”  of anything. It is similar to you having to convince a rapist that he shouldn’t rape you.

I hope you can see my logic here: it is  not that you are trying to not talk with him, or that you are telling him to not talk with you anymore. The only thing you should focus on at this point is: no physical contact.

I  hope you don’t think that it is too much to demand from him, that he doesn’t touch you and have sex with you???

anita