Hi Serife,

I agree that many fear the consequences of non-conformity. What happened at your place of work is typical in my experience. You did the right thing. Now if I had observed that situation myself I would walk away thinking that you, Serife, aren’t afraid to do the right thing and I’d want to gravitate toward you! I really would.

I know what you’re experiencing with your friends is frustrating and hurtful. I wonder if others in your group feel it too — I’ll bet they do. Friend groups are hard sometimes. I think a lot of us have felt exactly the way you do.

B