Hi Riya,

He messaged me 20 days back but this time he was so angry on me and he started saying that i should have not accepted the relationship and that he was happy after i left him he also started hitting on my insecurities while he was saying all these i just asked him to be in senses before speaking because i was just shocked to hear him saying those words to me. Then we ended the conversation after him saying few cuss words to me. Though he has said all those things my heart still wanted him but i didn’t tell him anything.

This appears to be more of attachment rather than love. The fact that he said those words after the breakup shows that clingy feeling, that neediness. that feeling of desperate wanting to be with you. A truly loving person wouldn’t say this.

If a son/daughter wants to go for higher studies to another country, a mother does not curse the him/her or say bad things or ask to stay with her all the time. The mother even though inside would like to be always with her child, but will willingly allow the son/daughter to go abroad for further studies without that neediness, that attachment. This is true love….Divine love.

Like it is truly said – If you like a flower you will pluck it, but if you love it you will nurture it, water it, and allow it to grow.

It doesn’t look like you did anything wrong. Focus on your dreams and aspirations which is to continue with the studies and establish the career that you have desired for. The man of your dreams would come to you at the right time at the right place.