Dear Greed4UrLove:

It is always feelings/ emotions that motivate people. Emotions can be viewed as energy in-motion, an energy that leads us to make the choices that we make. She chose to have you in her life as a girlfriend because it felt good to her, at the time, and she chose to break up with you later, because that felt better later. The fact that she chose to date you and have you in her home with her kids, means to me that she didn’t feel badly at the time for not putting her children first.

There are all kinds of factors playing into what led her to break up with you and no one (not even she) can draw an exact diagram listing the percentage of each factor in her breakup decision. What is clear is that overall she felt better about not having you in her life as a girlfriend.

If you look back at your relationship with her, you can, if you want, make two lists: things (that you/ others said and did, things that she experienced) that made her feel good and things that made her feel bad, these two lists can lead you to further insight.

anita

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