Hi Stacey,

His marriage is not perfect. It just isn’t. First of all, WHEN, not if, WHEN something goes wrong (it will! it has!) guess what? He cannot simply ghost his wife! Sorry not sorry! That would be called karma.

Second of all, guys don’t “do” social media. They just don’t. Not the guy’s guys. Well, now that you know he’s in touch with his social media feminine side, of course you know what those love and happiness Instagram-esque worthy posts are about, right? He’s trying to convince other people (and himself!) and YOU that he didn’t make a mistake by marrying someone immediately after his perfectly good past relationship.

Thirdly, he was mean to you because you forced him to answer up to what he did. Instead of letting him take the easy coward’s way out and ghost into the sunset you were all, “Sorry for any past transgressions, but where’ve you been, little buddy?” You went off HIS script. He never wrote the part in the script where you track him down.

Fourth of all, Instanta Marriages don’t end well. He married an instant cup of cocoa and he’s trying (too hard) to convince everyone that this is THE BEST.

Lastly, when, not if, when you find the person WORTHY of you (you know, the type who would never ghost people) you may get a phone call one day from your ex. He will be genuinely surprised that you are happily married, have three kids and a dog. He will have called to see how you “are” but will end up stammering an apology. Trust me on this one, it happened to me.

Best,

Inky