Dear Puppo:

You are 24 and he is 33. Your relationship started in 2011 when you were 15 and he was 24 (?). You broke up with him in 2013 and in 2016 because you fell  out of love with him both times. Recently you fell out of love with him again. You sometimes feel bored with him (“I started feeling bored”), emotionally disconnected (“I wasn’t being emotionally connected”).

You wrote that you “don’t know what he think, his fears, good or bad memories, what makes him happy or sad.. his future plans”, You don’t even know what he likes in you, you wrote.

And you wrote that he never talks to you about the two of you, about a future for the two  of you, never shares anything about himself, that he “isn’t verbally affectionate, he doesn’t talk romantic stuff.. One of my colleagues dropped me at 3 am at home.. He didn’t ask me anything about it nor he asked who was that person.. He doesn’t show any love”-

I want to understand better, therefore I ask:

1. You and him have been in a relationship since 2011, in person (not online), beginning with you being 14 and him 23?

2. During the relationship he never said anything like: I like you/ I love you/ I like spending time with you, and did he ever take you to a movie or a restaurant (a date)?

3. You listed the things you don’t know about him. You do  know his age, and you know that he likes “comedy movie scenes.. travelling, and just jokes around”. Is there anything else that you know about him, anything at all?

anita