Dear Puppo:

You are welcome. Reading your posts, I am learning about this man: he told you “how that breakup devastated him.. He said it destroyed his life.. He used to ride bike in full speed so that he gets accident and die… I was reading his texts I was feeling full of guilt”-

He dishonestly manipulated you to feel guilty and he succeeded. A good, honest man will not do what he did. Notice this: he doesn’t bother to make you feel loved; but he bothers to make you feel guilty.

“I feel like I’m very cruel person to do this to him”- this is what he wanted, the success of his manipulation. But it is not true: it is he who was very cruel to tell you a story which is either untrue or exaggerated, about his riding the bike, for the purpose of you feeling bad.

You feel guilty about  breaking up with him because you don’t want  him to feel bad; but he doesn’t feel guilty about making you feel bad.

“But Anita I don’t really care now.. I don’t have that feelings.. They are dead.. I feel guilty now.. I’m hurting too”- remember I said a relationship is like a chocolate cake and all you have is a raisin? Now I say, all you have is a bitter raisin, a raisin that tastes like guilt and hurt.

Please end this bitter relationship. I don’t like this man. I don’t need  to know anything more about him: his bicycle story is enough for me to see that any more time you spend with him will be more hurt and more guilt. Guilt that you don’t deserve because you did nothing wrong.

Do break up with him, is my strong suggestion.

anita