Hi Isabelle,

Thank you for getting back to my post.

Incompletion is whole and sadness is a part of it. All other negativities are the part of the same whole.

I am in full agreement with you about our innate need for companionship, intimacy, longingness.

“If I am not worth 5 minutes a couple of times a week, then what am I worth in his eyes?”

But this is what I am trying to explain. You are making your self-worth based on him and his actions.

“…down, this does not justify his failure to take 5 minutes”

Every expectation is about him, he not emailing, he not finding, him not writing the way he used to write earlier.

And Expectations lead to frustrations, most of the time. But if it is a “detached” one it won’t be difficult and if its an “attached” one they are going to lead to issues you are facing now. But its an inner work and right now you may not be ready just like you said.

“I do not know how to.”

This is why I am here. To suggest practical healing techniques (long term) and not just comforting words (temporary) where you feel lighter just by speaking/writing out.

I suggest you to practice the ancient Hawaiian technique of Ho’oponopono of self healing and forgiveness to work on your sadness, or even any other issues of the “spiritual” heart. There are articles on the web and videos on YouTube. I suggest you to NOT allow the mind to get into how/why it works. Just start doing the simple practice continuously for 21 days and I will be happy to know your progress.