Dear Lisa:

“‘Look at ___ .’ They were able to do this or that”- I used to get very frustrated when people said that, or if I read it in a book. Those comparisons are not fair because people’s childhoods are not the same. An example, two children, A and B, were born to two separate poor families. A grows up to be a financially successful adult and B is poor. Then someone, person C, says to B: look at A, he was able to get rich. Why can’t you?.

Problem is, in my example, A had a safe home experience and B had a scary home experience, big difference!

“They value one person over another but they walk around as if they do not so you can not call them out on it”- most people value some people over others. Back to my example above: C values A over B. But there are people (D, E, and F) who value someone else over C.

In other words, almost everyone values some people over others. What matters most, is does Lisa values Lisa.

anita