Thank you Brandy for the reply and I’ll keep on trying with the breathing exercises.

Anita, to answer your question. I offered to help her see things from his point of view and try and figure out why he did or didn’t respond in the ways she needed. Such as with her depressing thoughts. His reaction to them would be to literally ignore them, or change the subject(much like my friends). I tried to explain to her and help her see that for people who aren’t used to hearing about those kinds of things, and especially if they do not have much experience with it themselves, they simply may not know how to react or respond. They may be caught off guard, struggling to figure out what they need to do to help, and scared that they may say or do the wrong thing to make things worse.

As far as he goes, I offered to help try and council him on how to respond to her when she gets in the dark moods, what actions would be best and what not(like knowing when to leave her alone and when to hold her). To my face, he seemed appreciative and listened. We talked a decent amount about other things he struggled with, that he seen I was able to help with(figuring out by subtle clues how she is feeling and shit(I’ve always been really intune with other peoples feelings. Really empathatic and what not)). I thought the past(highschool days between him and I) where just that, in the past. But, I found out later that after I left he would just complain about me and how much he didn’t like me and some pretty nasty shit. I had a lot of major accusations thrown my way by him that he later admitted he just made up because he didn’t like me. And I didn’t just throw out the offers out of no where, He asked for the help in the first place because he could see that talking to me helped her.