Dear blkhwkdwn1:

Let’s take a walk on memory lane three years and eight months ago to September 18-20, 2016, when you started this thread, 60 pages ago. Following are quotes plus my today comments on these old quotes:

“So I have this girl I’ve known for YEARS through work, she’s no longer there anymore. She called me her friend although I’d say we were mostly co workers and that’s it because we never did friend things like hang out or text and stuff, but I have started a friendship with her for the past month.. and started really liking her.. thanks for the awesome 3 weeks we were friends and it’s been some of my best memories, texting, the coffees, the walk along Dallas road and the beach”- so your friendship with her started August 2016, and lasted 3 weeks before you started your thread.

“I know I’ll never be anything more than just a friend.. I’ll never ask her because I will never feel worthy of her”- I think you were worthy of her, but what I think is irrelevant: you believed that you were not worthy of her, and you were absolutely sure that you will never ask her to be more than a friend to you.

“she’s also the most amazing person I have ever met, and I’m happy around her, can’t stop smiling.. I’d do anything to make her happy.. I never met anyone like this in my 30+ years being alive”- this is you being in- love with her.

“Maybe I’ll hold off calling off the friendship.. I’m taking a break from that girl”- you were considering ending your friendship with her three weeks after it started.

“we used to text each other every day, now it’s once a week so maybe she was only there for me because this issue then it’s back to not talking or something”- your complaint about infrequent texting with her started three weeks into the friendship with her, a complaint still in effect 3 years and 8 months later.

“I’m still going to disappear for a while.. she said to keep her posted every now and then… I’ve disappeared from social media since last night, deactivated my Facebook while I do this”- the daily communication with her lasted not longer than 3 weeks, following which you told her that you will be gone from her life for a while, and she suggested that you keep her posted every now and then.

Fast forward, May 13, 2020: “All I know is being straight to the point and being patient doesn’t workout for me”- you were in love with her back in Sept 2016 and you were not at all straight to the point about it. You ended that friendship 3 weeks into it- that’s not being patient.

“Also I only said goodbye once to her”- you ended communication with her many times.

“I keep telling myself ‘you just keep doing the same thing over and over again.. is this going to go on forever? Are you going to feel rotten inside..?”- stop doing the same thing over and over again if you want to feel better.

“What is a different way that will work long term for me?”- have a woman in your life to whom you will refer to as your girlfriend or partner, a woman who will refer to you as her boyfriend or partner.

(I don’t think you ever had that experience. Did you?)

anita

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