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Jessi
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@anita, Exactly, a good friend of mines told me that she did not see this girl as beautiful as he sees her, that she is pretty and attractive but nothing especial or extraordinary as he sees in her. She also told me that she believes he makes a story up and poofs it as to his idealization to her, in less words he makes up parts of this story as to his fantasies wishes.

She said he “wants you to feel less of yourself and think highly of her and HIM, so he gets some sort of ego strokes and seems more interesting and appealing to you.

He blowed that story out of proportion  or the actual reality to his convenience, she told me its called triangulation or gaslighting.

And she also said that she feels he us not telling me all the truth about them or what really happened, she says there has to be something more to this story…

Plus why wound he give me such intimate details about how sexy or beautiful her nody looked in panties and bra. He was like:” no joke this girl is precious and she has an amazing body, I can tell she worked out a lot in the gym”

The funny thing is that he has seen me wirked super hard in the gym, lifting heavyweights, and seeing how people comment on how great my personality is, how much they want me in my job,what an amazing body I have,

 

So you be the judge anita! Lol