Hi Anita, thanks for your reply.

She is definitely into drama, she can have mood swings and sometimes I think she shows some behaviour that could fall under borderline personality disorder. You are right that perhaps maybe her claims of “it’s over!” weren’t always the truth even (she could be just saying that to herself perhaps, to justify getting some attention from others?)

But her stories about him not treating her nicely, making her feel insecure, have low self esteem, and not understanding why he wouldn’t just let her go if he wouldn’t even sleep with her, sounded real.

What would be her motivation to make me (or others) think her boyfriend hit her on the nose if it wasn’t the case? A cry for help? If that’s just a game about getting attention, would she also me making up the manipulative behaviour of her boyfriend to justify why she’s not leaving him? His behaviour looks creepy from the outside, yet she almost talks about it as cute that he came into her house while she was at work and left flowers.

At what point do red flags outweigh the green flags?

When I confront her, she just says that’s how it always goes; he keeps acting like they are still together.

When is what they do cute and romantic and when is it toxic and abusive? I find it so hard to tell.

Could you perhaps elaborate a but more about what you think are half truths and half lies here? And what would be her motivation to do so?