Dear Jason:

“I’m curious where the tipping point is between ‘ooooh how sweet, she must enjoy so much desperate attention from him’ and ‘oooh that’s pretty creepy?”-

– one tipping point is the law. If he is breaking the law, you may suggest to her that she involves the police. If you know her address or and you believe that she is in danger because of this man, you may want to call the police in her area and ask that they look into her situation.

But why are you, a single man in your forties, focused on this woman whom you haven’t seen in person for eight years, a woman who is involved with another man. Wouldn’t it be more worthy of your time and mental resources to have a girlfriend of your own, a woman who you will spend time with in person?

anita