Dear Daniel:

You didn’t see your father for 8 years, since you were 15.

“he could get angry at any moment for no apparent reason”- an angry parent, particularly intensely and unpredictably angry parent is a very scary experience for a child. Good think you didn’t see him or a while, wished you didn’t see him since earlier than 15.. for as long as he was intensely and unpredictably angry.

I am guessing that you will make sure when you do choose a partner in life, that she will not be easy to anger, that she will be a calm person who is in control of her anger. Is your mother like that: calm and in control of her anger?

anita