Dear Carol:

Can’t argue or negotiate with sex drive being lower (or higher) than you would like. Reads like he has a lower sex drive than you. Those early days.. kinda honeymoon periods” are characteristic of teenage/ twenties for men, and later twenties/ thirties for women (roughly, in most cases). At 39 he is post that stage, at 33 you are in the midst of it. This is my guess.

Either you wait to catch up with him or you break up with him and choose a person in your stage of sexual drive, I figure.

(A low sex drive doesn’t indicate your lack of desirability, it is just that.. he doesn’t have much of an appetite, that is all).

anita