Dear tgrd:

“I developed a very strong affection.. ardent affection.. I felt such a strong love.. I hadn’t felt this intensity for a long time”- but she wasn’t aware of this intensity, seems to me. And then she received a very strong, ardent poem from you and the intensity scared her, “intimidated her so much that she ended all contact” with you.

I suppose it is a good idea to express your affection for a woman in a light manner, or before it gets so intense: to share just a bit, wait for her reaction and take it from there. What you did was to experience all that unreciprocated intensity all by yourself, managing it well over time. You didn’t think that your intensity will be too much for her to manage. But to her, your intensity was a surprise, and too intense of a surprise!

What you experienced before her rejection was a pre-rejection intensity, a positive experience that you celebrated in a poem, thinking that she may join you in your celebration, or at least, that she will not put an end to your celebration. What you experience now is a post-rejection intensity. Give it time, be gentle to yourself as you meditate, expect this intensity to last for a while, before it dissipate. And post again if you would like.

anita

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