Hi Anita,

I am familiar with the concept as I’ve attended several programs based on CBT and ACT, to learn how to cope with chronic pain.

I’ve found the tools I’ve learnt very helpful with pain and emotional issues.

I wish he could access similar help too. He h has repeatedly asked his GP to refer him to mental health services. Eventually they did, but it will still take several months for sessions to actually start due to the pandemic.

Yes, the migrains are part of my health conditions, and they can be very debilitating at times. I did manage to do some gentle Pilates and dance exercises last night, which helped.

He called me yesterday evening to ask if we could spend the night together cuddling and talking. I gave it some thought, then decided to come to see him.

We’ve talked a lot, both cried a lot too. He keeps telling me how much he loves me and wants to be with me, but that he’s just not in the right place to be in a relationship. I understand, and I can see that.

He says that he doesn’t want anyone else other than me and that he just needs to be alone to get himself back in to recovery.

He also says that he hopes to get himself sorted then, if I’m still single, we’ll try again. I’ve told him that I hope it happens but I can’t wait around for him.

He says that this is the best relationship he’s ever been in, and he’s being quite brutal on himself for falling off the wagon and ruining it.

It’s the best relationship I’ve ever had too.

We’ve talked and talked and talked and talked. I’m exhausted but I’m glad we took the time to talk through everything.

I can see how much he loves me, and it hurts that we’ve been thrown a curveball that we can’t work around.

But that’s life I guess, and it’s not always fair.