Dear blkhwkdwn1:

I am glad that you got your money back, this debt lasted too long, good thing it’s finally paid in full.

There is one more thing regarding her not hanging out with you more often than rarely: teenagers are very social, needing to frequently socialize with peers- every single day! College students in their 20s still have a high social appetite, known to party a lot. As people age, that social need weakens and weakens. As people enter their 30s, most slow down, focusing on their jobs, spouses and children. People in their later 30s, 40s and older are way less likely to make new friends and way likely to have frequent get togethers with old friends.

She is in her 5th decade of life,  a grandmother. A woman her age is not likely to hang out with a friend who  is single, going for hikes etc. She is likely to keep to herself and rarely socialize, and when she socializes it is likely to be with a group of people, in a group setting, and not with a single person.

You on the other hand, are closer to being a teenager than she is, not only age wise, but it being that unlike her, you are not a parent or a grandparent, and unlike her, you are still living with your own parent. Also, unlike her you don’t have a partner, so you are .. way closer to having a teenager’s social need and expectations.

anita