Mia, you have a right to happiness and seem to have found a wonderful man who makes you happy. At home, your family continuously make you unhappy by robbing you of good feelings about yourself. The solution? Plan your future with this young man, surround yourself with positive people and good friends, and turn a deaf ear to anything negative your family has to say. Do not dance to their tune, doing everything to please them to get them to ‘love’ you. Live life your way. Do not let them ruin your life. Make your boundaries clear to them, and if they continue to cross the line, cut them out of your life. So difficult to take this on board when you are so young, I know, but your mother (and others in your family, perhaps) are narcissists. Please use the internet to find out all you can about narcissism and arm yourself against these people. Maybe no contact is the only answer, sadly. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Jan.