Hi Linlin,

Thank you for sharing your story. But unfortunately this isn’t just a case of my partner has trouble to verbalise it. She is reluctant to put anything into action. It is starting to feel she enjoys the non committal nature of our relationship and does not want to progress it forward. The honeymoon period wore of long ago,  naturally you’d want to move onto next steps but she is happy seeing me when she can, she cares but it’s no different to a friends with benefits. I want more. I want to marry her yet she can’t even put anything concrete down in terms of future and avoids or gets cagey about discussion. I find it odd that she says I love you to her friends and family is an affectionate person but can’t say it to me after 2 years. She’s actually not met any of my closest friends she has never made the effort to or asked and I enjoyed spending our time together so didn’t push it but even my friends are questioning our relationship. I have tried being patient and asking in different non confrontational ways but she always changes the topic. Do you think deep down she is already aware that she doesn’t love me? She is simply enjoying the company on her terms whilst I’m the mug who has fallen in love?