Dear lazySnorkax:

The Mayoclinic. org website reads: “Obstructive sleep apnea.. causes breathing to repeatedly stop and start during sleep.. your throat muscles intermittently relax and block your airway during sleep. A noticeable sign of obstruction sleep apnea is snoring”. (Is this the “Snor” in your username?) “.. One treatment involves using a device that uses positive pressure to keep your airway open while you sleep. Another option is a mouthpiece to thrust your lower jaw forward during sleep. In some cases, surgery may  be an option too”-

– if you didn’t discuss the device and mouthpiece mentioned in the website (the italicized), ask your doctor about it.

I understand that you feel very strongly about your now ex girlfriend. Maybe she will change her mind, maybe she will feel love for you again, but you can’t make it happen, it has to happen for her without any pressure from you.

You wrote that she told you that she loves you or years, and you suggested that it may have been a lie. I don’t think it’s likely that she lied, I think it’s very likely that she really felt love for you. One factor to consider as to why she stopped feeling that love is the pandemic and lockdowns- there is  a feeling of the end of the world for many people emotionally withdraw as a result.

You wrote: “2020 has been bad for me mentally and physically”- yes, it has been for so many of us. For her too. Maybe that’s why she emotionally withdrew from you.

It will be bad for you and for her if you beg her, pressure her, argue with her, try to reason with her etc. If you love her, don’t do these things to her. And if she loves you, she will let you know on her time. Be patient, calm down best you can, ask your doctors about that device and mouthpiece, and post here anytime.

anita