Hi Carrie,

Thank you for sharing your story, it reads as FEAR, however, I think right now the best thing you can do is work on the issues which are causing you to want to run away and decide if this relationship is exactly what you want. Otherwise, rushing to reconcile is also unwise in the end it will lead to more unnecessary pain and you splitting up again if you have not worked on the underlying issues. From what you have written it seems he is a genuine, warm man who has made an extraordinary amount of effort to move things forward at a relaxed pace but you have bolted. A healthy relationship requires vulnerability from both parties and communication. It would be unfair to string him along whilst you are indecisive, so I suggest you arrange a meeting and communicate how you felt which leads you to react the way you did and then ask for some space to work through those issues. You will have to respect his decision or choice too, he must be very hurt and you need to respect those feelings but if he sees value and worth in you and the relationship he will also be willing to give it some time and work but it will be up to you now to prove it. Simply walking away without any explanation or attempt to give the other person any sense of clarity is immature.

Tim