Dear MonaD:

I admire you for doing the frontline, scientific-educational work that you  do in Sri Lanka, working to establish the country’s first ever automatic nucleic acid extraction system, to support the Covid-19 testing expansion in the country. I can hardly believe that I am communicating with a person in this major position! And on top of this amazing work that you do, you are also finishing your Master’s degree in molecular pathology- my invisible hat is off to you- you are amazing!!!

I read your recent post earlier in the day and was going to respond sooner, but what you shared was so significant and new to me, that I wanted to re-read your posts in the previous two threads before responding. I proceeded to reply to members that required less research and when I finally re-read your posts, a short while ago, I didn’t find much there to shine light on the new information you provided, except this:

February you wrote: “my relationship with my family is struggling as well. They are not very affectionate and loving towards me”. March, you wrote “On speaking with my mother, she mentioned that unfortunately I was the kind of person who had more value than I gave myself credit for and not sell myself short, especially in a relationship”.

Yesterday you shared that your father left his family (your mother, yourself and your sister) ten years ago for another woman, leaving the three of you with no financial means- he left, not looking back, and proceeded to have a new family. You wrote: “I was constantly told I was the reason for the family breaking up”.

I immediately wondered who told you that you were the reason for your family breaking up, that is, for your father leaving.

Connecting it to what you shared in March, that your family are not very affectionate and loving toward you, I wondered if it is mainly your mother who blamed you for your father leaving, having led your sister perhaps to believe the same and treat you unlovingly?

I was prepared to write more, but better I stop here and wait for your answers, whenever it is convenient for you to answer before I proceed (I know you are very busy, so please take all the time you need, and answer only if and when it is convenient for you).

anita