Dear Tania:

I always thought he is a good  guy. The fact that he doesn’t express his love to you with “sweet words” does not make him a bad guy, or a lesser guy. It just means that he is uncomfortable saying sweet words, it makes him feel distress to say such words. But he shows you love in other ways. There is a book I heard about a lot, although I never read it, called “The Five Love Languages: How to Express heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate”. It lists five different general ways that romantic partners express and experience love, five different “love languages”: Words of affirmation (what you referred to as “Sweet words”),  Gift giving, Physical touch, Quality time and Acts of service.

From what you shared in your recent post, these are not his love languages: Word of affirmation (“he can’t keep telling me some of sweet words”), or Gift giving (“he also almost never give me surprise.. only one I can remember.. when I graduated, he gave me necklace”).

These are his love languages: Physical touch (“he hug me kiss me”), Quality time (“when weekends we used to having fun together and he always give me his time on weekend”).

I don’t know about Acts of service- that would be helping you clean your home, shopping for you, etc.(?)

Maybe it will help you to read this book…

anita