Dear Anita,

Thank you so much for checking in with me, I really appreciate it.

I am doing good and spent approximately 12 hours of my day today outdoors surrounded by mountains and a beautiful lake so it was peaceful.

I hope you had a good day too.

I was actually going to write on this thread as lately I feel myself missing having a companion of the romantic kind by my side.  I realized in my initial post I wrote my relationship with my ex was six months of long-distance but I guess I was a mess while writing that post and didn’t realize it was actually 10 months of long-distance with only 3 months of it in person. I had not seen him since February and the whole thing officially ended mid-June. Prior to the relationship ending, I had already built a safeguard around me knowing the relationship could end when his family found out because of all the concerns I initially had due to confusing responses. Maybe that is why I feel I am moving on faster than I thought since I had put a stop to my feelings well before. There are occasional low days that I am handling better, and usually, those low days happen because I miss having a companion.  At first, I was worried if I have a co-dependency issue or something but, to be honest even during the good times of my past relationship I would still balance all of my other things and never felt I was isolating myself and only relying on my partner, it just felt nice to have someone to share parts of your day with. Even though it was my first relationship and the majority of it was long-distance I still valued the emotional aspect of having someone. I am grateful to have friends and family for that as well but, of course, it is not the same.

I guess for that reason I feel like I want to now maybe try to just get to know people, and then this time slowly see if I want a relationship with that person instead of rushing things as I did with my ex. I guess I am confused because I feel the official break up being only 1.5 months old is not long enough….should I still wait longer before I start to consider dating again? As much as I miss having a romantic companion, I am enjoying my new freedom of being single since I am re-discovering parts of me that got lost in that past relationship, and I genuinely am worried about if that happens again because of a new relationship.

So these are some thoughts that lately dwell in my mind which I wanted to share with you in the hopes of some advice, I would be grateful for any feedback you may have.

With love,

Noor