During PE:

I will try to get as much information as I can from your short post and point to possibilities:

1. The relationship was long-distance and you met her in person only a  few times, but the two of you had an extensive back and forth communication for a while, as I understand it. You may have perceived the relationship as more than it was, while she didn’t think the relationship was serious enough to warrant explaining why she wanted to be just friends.

2. You wrote that the two of you “share philosophies and perspectives”- if the relationship was serious enough in her mind, and if you believe that when breaking up a serious relationship, a person should give the other a reason for the breakup, then the two of you do not share this one philosophy/ perspective.

3. “Everything had been going extremely well, until  one day, she abruptly started responding less”- what felt like “going extremely well” for you, may not have been going extremely well in her mind.

And what seems abrupt to you was probably not abrupt to her: just as she didn’t share with you a reason for the breakup, she probably didn’t share  with you that she may have been thinking about a breakup earlier, gradually coming to the conclusion that she wants to be just friends.

4. “During that same time, she was let go from her job and has had a difficult time looking for another one”- maybe she was anxious about her finances and maybe she figured another man (one she knew or one she hoped to meet) was a better option than you, for the purpose of increasing her financial security.

5. “part of me really hopes that one day I’ll have a chance to get to know her again”- I would add, get to know her more. She may not be the “amazing woman” you would like to think that she is, and .. she may be indeed amazing. I don’t know, but do you know, or do you need more time and more openness on her part to find out more about her?

anita