Dear Bill:

You are welcome.

I want to look more into what happened, you wrote:  “he told me about a convo he had with his big sister about marriage.. It was just a random convo between them about how their parent might not be able to bound with someone from another tribe.. he just opened up to that he never had any conversation with his sister.. Yeah he lied about telling me he talked to his sister but what he’s saying now is he’s having doubts about the relationship”- when you wrote “Yeah he lied” and then you wrote “but what he’s saying now”- how do you know that what he is saying now is not another lie?

“my boyfriend finally talked to his family.. cuz I insisted and what he told me is that they don’t have a problem about it but he feels we ain’t that compatible in language”- I doubt that he finally talked to his family. I think he lied again.

When you ask a person who lies questions, you are likely to get more lies, and when you ask him to confirm something you may be asking him to confirm a lie: “I asked him if.. he said yes but now he said.. he also said.. I made him confirm and he said..”, etc..

The reason he lied to you: “it feels like he already knew how it’s going to end but just wants to keep me around and stuff“- even a person who lies has needs: to have emotional and physical closeness with another person from time to time, so “he keeps calling, talking to me like we’re still dating!”.

Don’t allow a man who lies to you to use you for his emotional and/ or sexual needs. When a man lies to you, don’t ask him more questions. There is a common saying I know: “Ask me no questions, I’ll tell you no lies”: when you ask a person who lies questions, you are likely to get .. more lies.

I hope you no longer have contact with him and that you indeed move on. Feel free to post again anytime.

anita