Dear anita

Thank you so much for your kind words. You are one of the people I really look up to.

“A person has a limited amount of emotional resources, so we can’t give it all away, exhaust ourselves and become useless to ourselves and to others.” – Absolutely. It makes a lot of sense now. I will keep that in mind.

I have been raised in an extremely judgmental society. I have been personally judged for a lot of things, and it hurts. But I guess my mind has been so confused about how to differentiate between using your judgement in the right things that I go to an extreme of non-judgement.

“Many people want someone to listen to them, but they don’t want any input more than: I-hear-you, and you-are-right. They don’t want to look inward and correct what is wrong.” That is so true. Sometimes I feel like my time and energy goes is wasted- because even though I spend so much time with the person, they end up doing things that hurt themselves.

Ah. I understand now. Thank you. Maybe it is time to break that tension release service- but it feels so scary. I know that I will have to establish firm boundaries but I have become so used to this, I feel guilty, spend hours thinking about what I could have done or justify my actions to the other person.

Yes, anita. I would be happy to communicate further- and learn from you. Thank you.

S